Something About Getting Married

I've wanted to write something about getting married for some time, but I hadn't got a chance. I was either too busy, or getting myself too addicted to novels that I didn't even switch on my laptop for days.

After three wedding dinners (with the same person, pheww!~), I've learned a lot. 

Yes, yes, we knew all along getting married is not just a matter of two persons. There are just so many external factors to take care of. First of all, of course the parents, whether or not we met their expectations and at the same time satisfied ourselves. Then, how do/should we treat our friends and relatives who helped out, who flew all the way, even half the globe just to see you on your big day. Also, guests that attended the dinner. Did they enjoy the food and the live performance? Did they enjoy having the gathering with long lost friends and relatives? Bumping into some familiar faces and picked up from the last time they met?

All these factors have affected us in chosing whether or not to follow the local Chinese customary wedding, venue for wedding dinner, song list of live band (you can't have the band to sing Jay Chou when 80% of your guests are your parents' friends), table arrangements etc. 

I would say our wedding dinners were not perfect, all three of them. I don't believe in perfect wedding even though we've worked hard in planning for almost a year. I don't know about all of you out there but my wedding ceremony and dinner were both a little chaos. We're all new in this wedding thingy, things got complicated when we did not know what's next. When you finally have experience, you don't need them anymore. That's the tricky part of getting married =p

Only on the morning I got married, I realized my house was not big enough to house all the important friends and relatives, all at once. And we have problems walking around, and I'm glad I wasn't wearing a ball gown. During dinners, more things can get wrong. The projector, the speaker, the slanted screen, the lights, the decoration etc. But we couldn't care less. I don't think majority of the guests would notice that anyway.

My favorite moment of my entire wedding(s) was after the wedding dinner. My cousins and aunts stayed back. We were trying to arrange logistics but we all got distracted and started to sing, dance, drink and take photos, while the curious waiters and waitresses cleaned up the place. Just the thought of it made me smile to myself. This was really the best part of my wedding =)

Trust me when I tell you most couples don't get their dream wedding. There were tonnes of factors that hindered you from getting one. Monetary is always one of the biggest factor unless you're freaking rich.

But it's up to the couple whether or not they're bitter about the unperfectness of the wedding. Some people get down to the tiniest detail of the wedding ceremony, but I personally don't think it's worth the effort because most guests don't remember a single detail from your wedding. 

I don't believe in being the prince and princess on the wedding either. Yes, you might be the main actor and actress of the day but doesn't mean all you do is just about you. Having your guests leaving the dinner happily is important too.  

All in all, no matter how things turned out, I guess all the couples feel the same after everthing. 

Relief.

=)