2007年4月27日星期五

什么是爱?什么是牺牲?

或许你没有留意,我"For One More Day"的留言里,有位朋友说了,他觉得故事里的主角的妻子离开他,因为她爱得不够,不能和主角一起挨。

什么是爱?什么是牺牲?

爱一定要牺牲?一个女人,一定要为了男人牺牲?在他最困难的时候默默的支持他。为什么从来没有人说,一个男人,要在女人最困难的时候默默的守候她,体谅她?很不公平。

对,我赞成两个人相爱,就应该互相扶持。但是,有时候有些事情变质了。你发现你以前爱的那个人,渐渐消失了。不管你如何努力,劝他,鼓励他,守候他,支持他……你能为他做的,你都做了。别说其他的,说故事里的主角。天天酗酒,没心思於事业,不能接受自己已经未能在球场上大展拳手,却一直陶醉在自己的世界了。忽略了家人,忽略了爱他的人。妻子放弃了,女儿失望了。

妻子离去,应该被责怪吗?

或许更应该说,两个人都有责任挽回婚姻。没有人有资格要另一个人完完全全的牺牲……要别人爱你,你要先爱自己,爱他人。

你说,对不对?

5 条评论:

huinee 说...

I absolutely agree! I actually thought of leaving a comment about that when I read the comment from Martian (no offense). I was miffed when I read the comment about "the wife doesn't love him". No matter how much you love someone, at some point things will just break apart if that someone isn't contributing to the relationship as well. Love is not about blind support.

薇薇 说...

hahaha!hui nee,i definitely understand how u feel when u read the comment becoz i think most of us have the same reaction to that sentence.like i said, 没有人有资格要另一个人完完全全的牺牲,this is just too selfish.

KiaHooi 说...

I havent the time to write, but I shall sum up with "I agree with both you & Hui Nee"

Haha...Martian's too young!

huinee 说...

Unfortunately there are too many of this kind of people in this world I think. :P We hear it all the time, not just from Martian...(again, no offense ya).

Martian 说...

shite.....Aihz...After the passionate stage its about responsibility..i still think when they got married, they should really understand what the Paderi asked (will u suffer la,go tothether till die...etc) ....before saying yes.